Your Anger Isn't a Flaw. It's the Forge.
- Nick Smith
- Jun 27
- 2 min read
Nicholas Townsend Smith my12journeys.com There is a fire they tell you to put out.
A heat they tell you is dangerous.
They tell you to be gentle. To be soft. To forgive and forget.
And for years I listened. I made my boundaries from half-hearted hopes and flimsy requests. They were suggestions, easily bent by guilt, easily eroded by someone else’s persistence. I was soft metal, afraid of the forge, and I paid the price. I let the poison of other people’s stories seep into my own.
I was wrong.
Your soul isn’t purified with gentle requests. It’s tempered in fire.
Righteous anger is the forge.
It is the blast furnace that gets hot enough to melt you down to your core essence and burn away the impurities. The years of self-doubt. The residue of gaslighting. The voice that whispers “maybe it was my fault.”
All of it turns to ash and smoke in this heat.
This is the holy fire where you finally learn to decide. The word itself is a weapon. It comes from the Latin de, meaning “off,” and caedere, meaning “to cut.”
To decide is to cut off.
It is the act of using the sharpened edge of your clarity to sever what no longer belongs.
You aren't "asking" for space. You are cutting off access. You aren't "hoping" for respect.
You are cutting off the option of disrespect. It is a clean, definitive violence against your own weakness and the patterns that have kept you trapped.
This is the hammer blow.
This is the sound of your “maybe” being forged into a non-negotiable “No.”
A boundary forged in this fire is not a picket fence. It is a wall of tempered fucking steel. It doesn't need to be explained. It doesn’t need to be negotiated. It simply is.
I am in this forge every day. I am not a master blacksmith. I am an apprentice, right alongside you. I still get burned. I still sometimes flinch from the heat and have to find the courage to step back into the flames.
This isn’t about one-time transformation. It’s about the willingness to keep your own fire burning.
What bullshit in your life needs to be burned away? What are you ready to cut off? The forge is hot. Tell me in the comments.
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If you are ready to build the forge and do the real work, find the tools by clicking the link in my bio.
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