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The Ecology of Identity: Why You Can’t Heal in the Place That Made You Sick

Updated: 4 days ago

This emotional illustration visualizes the heartbreaking reality of the "recidivism loop," capturing the poignant moment described in the article where a mother recognizes that her son's battle isn't against the prison walls, but against the environment waiting for him outside. It embodies the struggle between the "Autopilot" brain and the desire for change, a core conflict addressed in The Giants and the Smalls. The lock on the door serves as a metaphor for Environmental Determinism, illustrating how our physical surroundings can keep our inner Giant trapped while the smalls of old habits dictate our actions. This scene connects directly to the 12 Journeys program, which teaches students to "change their map" rather than just their mind to achieve psychological resilience. It is a compelling visual for those seeking mentorship for growth and habit breaking strategies, emphasizing that this process is non-clinical coaching and personal development only, distinct from therapy or addiction treatment. Whether you are looking for life strategy guidance in Salt Lake City or online coaching, this image reminds us that we must reshape our container to reshape our lives.

The air inside the Utah State Prison doesn’t move. It hangs. Stagnant. Recycled.


Yesterday, I sat in that air for three hours.


Usually, these prison visits are cold. A wall of plexiglass. A phone receiver that smells like rubbing alcohol. You see the person, but you don’t feel them. Yesterday was different. It was a pilot program. No glass. No phones. Just families.


I watched a prisoner hold his daughter. I saw a mother touch her son’s face for the first time in years.


It felt like a victory. But in the corner, a mother dropped a hard truth on me. She wasn’t looking at the hug. She was looking at the door.


"The hard part isn't in here," she said. "It's when he gets out. He goes right back to the same street. Same friends. Same dealer. And then he’s back in here."


She was describing a loop. A trap.


We like to think we are captains of our souls. We aren't. We are creatures of place.


Environmental Determinism


Environmental Determinism is the behavioral science principle stating that physical surroundings dictate human action more powerfully than internal willpower. It argues that individual agency is often an illusion, overruled by the cues, architecture, and social signaling of a specific location.


I have been thinking about this mother’s fear. And I have been thinking about my girlfriend's dog, Lola.


If Lola walks a specific path and finds a discarded sandwich, she will check that exact spot for the rest of her life. She doesn't care if the sandwich is gone. The place promises the reward.


We are just like Lola.


The Neuroscience of "The Corner"


I dug into the research on this. It turns out, the mother in the prison wasn't just being pessimistic. She was describing a biological reality involving Hippocampal Place Cells.

Here is what is happening in the brain of a returning prisoner (or you, when you try to quit sugar but keep the cookies on the counter):


  • The Encoding: When we act in a specific place (a street corner, a kitchen), our brain’s hippocampus creates a "geotag" for that memory.

  • The Shift: Over time, the control of that behavior moves from the Prefrontal Cortex (the thinking brain) to the Basal Ganglia (the robot brain). It becomes a reflex.

  • The Trigger: When the prisoner returns to the old neighborhood, the environment itself acts like a drug. The buildings, the smells, the light—they physically reactivate the old neural pathways.


The environment remembers the addiction even when the man has forgotten it.

Just biology. Cold. Efficient. Deadly.


The Katrina Experiment


We have proof of this on a massive scale.


In 2005, Hurricane Katrina forced thousands of parolees to evacuate New Orleans. It was a tragedy, but it created a rare "natural experiment."


Sociologist David Kirk tracked two groups:


  1. Parolees who moved back to their old neighborhoods.

  2. Parolees who were forced to move to entirely new cities.


The result? The ones who moved were 15% less likely to be re-incarcerated. They didn't get "better" or "smarter." They just got moved.


They experienced Habit Discontinuity. The chain was broken.


The Architecture of Willpower


Willpower is a finite cognitive resource that is rapidly depleted by the stress of resisting environmental triggers. The "Ego Depletion" model suggests that relying on self-control to fight a toxic environment is a mathematical impossibility over long timelines.


We judge ourselves for failing. We say we are weak.


I don't think we are weak. I think we are exhausted.


We are trying to use a "Goal-Directed System" (our conscious wish to change) to fight a "Habit System" (the environment's demand that we stay the same). It is a mismatch.


Here is the breakdown of the war inside your head:


The Autopilot (Dorsolateral Striatum)

This is the machine. It sees the couch and turns on Netflix. It sees the old friend and lights the cigarette. It is fast, cheap, and relentless. It doesn't think; it just executes.


The Brake (Prefrontal Cortex)

This is the planner. It tries to stop the autopilot. But it runs on high energy (glucose) and shuts down the moment you get stressed, tired, or hungry.


The Outcome

In a high-stress environment—poverty, shame, fatigue—the Striatum always wins. The brake fails. The autopilot takes over.


The Townsend Shift


I am calling this The Ecology of Identity.


We spend years trying to fix the "software" (our thoughts, our affirmations, our therapy). But we ignore the "hardware" (our house, our route to work, the people we sit with).


The word Habit comes from the Latin habitus, meaning "condition" or "appearance." But it also relates to habere, "to hold."


Your environment holds you.


If you want to change, you cannot just change your mind. You have to change your map. You have to move the furniture. Take a different road. Throw out the chair you sit in when you doom-scroll.


The prisoner's mother knew. You can't heal in the place that made you sick.


The Reframe


This is the piece I am sitting with: I am not a fixed object.


I am a fluid process that takes the shape of the container I am poured into. If I keep pouring myself into the same cracked cup, I will keep leaking out.


It is not about strength. It is about geometry.


The Commitment


This is my work right now. To stop fighting the room and start changing it.

Where is your environment fighting you?


Follow along as I continue to walk this path.


I explore this in The 12 Journeys.



Curious if the 12 Journeys are for you? Drop a comment with the word 'WISDOM' and I’ll send you the first week’s framework for free so you can test the methodology yourself. No strings attached.

 
 
 

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Jolee Kochanowski
Jolee Kochanowski
Dec 31, 2025

I love listening to you speak and the knowledge that you share is priceless. I'm so grateful to you and to AndI. You have changed our lives for the better.

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Nicholas Smith
Nicholas Smith
2 days ago
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Thank you, Jo. I love that!!

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